If you're in a long term relationship or marriage, have you made any of the mistakes listed?
My fiancé and I have been in couples therapy since the end of 2020. We have pretty much touched on almost all the points made in this article. There is definitely work involved to keep our relationship together. The biggest things we've learned (and are continuing to work on) are that we are going to fight, we are going to trigger each other and the real work is figuring out how to heal the fight. There was a point where our arguments would last for hours and we would just go in circles. Nowadays, we struggle to implement a "break" to stop the argument, calm down and try to find a way to rationally get through what got triggered. It's exhausting, but we're both pretty committed to making our lives together work. I sincerely hope we never lose the drive to continue the work!