"Sometimes you're born into a family, sometimes you need to go find it, sometimes it finds you. But no matter how it comes together, that when it does, family is what you fight for, family is what you protect."
That was allegedly said by Angelina Jolie. My family definitely found me. I never wanted to be a bonus mom. I knew that I always wanted a husband, a partner but if I were to have a family, I wanted to create it, I didn't want to have an already made one. Whelp, the universe had a different vision for me. I hate that there is someone on the outskirts of my family who's decisions can affect my life. I hate that I have to help her raise a child that she irresponsibly brought into the world. (My boyfriend, while he loves his daughter, knew that it was irresponsible to have his youngest. It wasn't his body, but for his part in the situation, he was negligent. He had to accept and go with #3's choice.) I have to remind myself that I am in my bonus kids' lives for a reason, that they love me, they do listen to my input, they see me as a positive influence in their lives and that they've embraced me as a part of their family.
They are my family.